A lot of people believe that a Soul Mate or a Twin Flame is just one person "out there" for you that is destined to be with you for a lifetime.  For those who know me know that I don't believe in this theory.  I used to, but I've learned and grown through my wonderful and not-so-wonderful relationships over the years and this is what I know: As cold as this may sound for some of you, the reality is that some people are meant to be in your lives for a lifetime and some for "a season."  

With that said, I do believe that we make contracts, before we incarnate, so that certain people will come into our lives to support our soul's growth.  They can support us, assist us in some way, love us.  They can be a friend, a sibling, a child, a parent, an in-law, a romantic interest, etc.  

Free will is a gift that we have when we incarnate.  Our decisions are not predestined but rather the result of our thoughts and the actions that we take.  Free will gives us the opportunity to do what we want...even NOT listen to our intuition.  However, we have to live with the consequences of all of our thoughts, actions, and words.  Also, we are free to attract into our life exactly what we want.  This is why I say, "you can manifest your soul mate or twin flame...but be careful."  Why?  

It is my experience, as well as my observation of over 25 years of studying people, that we attract those who reflect our INNER BELIEF in ourselves.  With that said, it is important for your personality to be aligned with your soul...in other words:

If you are not CERTAIN what type of partner you are seeking and what your inner and outer desires are, then you are not certain of who you really are.  Simple as that.  Knowing yourself is the first step in knowing what you desire in a partner.  Do you love animals and want a lot of them living with you?  Or, are you just not the nurturing type?  Are you a homebody or do you like to travel and see the world?  Are you a thrill-seeker, or do you like to stay safe?  Are you passionately sexual or can you go months without sex?  Are you dominant or submissive?  Do you like children, or do you prefer your freedom?  Do you like a lot of loving attention, or are you satisfied without the mushy stuff?  Get to know yourself.  It's not enough to just go out and find a partner who looks and feels good.  You want to make sure you both fit together for the long haul.

Once you know who you really are, then it's time to write down what you want.  I have been extremely successful in this area, personally, and I have been able to help others with manifesting their desires in the romantic sector.  I tell my clients to always make a list of attributes, characteristics, personality and lifestyle traits they would like in a partner.  Here are some examples but they are not limited to:

Visualizing your partner, and feeling the emotion of what it's like to be with him or her in your life on a regular basis, will attract someone who vibrationally matches you.  Keep visualizing and emoting even after you begin taking action.  

Think about where this person may be.  Is he/she on a dating site?  Join one.  Is he/she into photography?  Join a class or a photography meet-up group.  Is he/she Spiritual?  Join spiritually-based groups or a church that resonates with you.  Is he/she volunteering?  Start serving the homeless meals in a soup kitchen or start volunteering at the Red Cross.  Decide what he/she is most-likely doing during the evening or weekend and go there.  It is important that you enjoy doing these things too.  It is also imperative that I note here that this person, you are manifesting, has a life and so do you.  The more you have in common or the more this person is open to what you love, the more likely a relationship will ensue.

Now, I know this statement can create fear.  It may be that the person you get involved with will stay in your life forever and you will live blissfully with them for the rest of your life, or, maybe not.  Think of it this way, everyone enters our life for a reason.  Sometimes that reason is for a lifetime and sometimes it's for a season.  Enjoy the relationship as it is now and love your partner with everything you have, but remember to always stay true to yourself.  If for some reason you and your partner begin drifting apart on things that matter most to you, it may be time to let go or to get counseling.  One thing I've found is it is not healthy for either of you to stay more committed to the "relationship" than you are to your own happiness and truth.  If you find that you cannot stay in the relationship and continue to grow within that relationship, then perhaps it's time to take a good hard look at yourself in relation to your partner.  Maybe it's time to move on with Love.  

It is not a failure to grow and change in different ways than your partner.  It can be very destructive, to both of you, if either of you are clinging to a commitment that is no longer serving either one of you.  So, let go without anger.

After a grief period...

Ask yourself, who are you now?  How have you changed?  What do you want now?

Write your list, take action, continue to grow!

For more information and transcendental techniques for manifestation, call me!

Until next time.  I wish you love and light,

~ Lori